Beginners Guide To Erotic Spanking

Erotic Spanking For Beginners.

Erotic spanking can be an exciting addition to bedroom foreplay. A far cry from the spankings some people may have received as naughty children, the experience of spanking during erotic play is supposed to heighten the pleasure of the receiver – not punish them. Erotic spanking can be performed using the palm of the hand or a variety of spanking toys. The most common spanking tools include floggers, spanking paddles and sex whips, also sometimes referred to as riding crops.

While some BDSM practices do use spanking as a part of dominance and punishment, the act of erotic spanking is designed to bring pleasure to the person on the receiving end by igniting their pleasure-pain barrier, bringing increased blood flow to the area and increasing the sensitivity of the area being spanked. This enhanced sexual arousal leads to stronger, more intense sexual responses. For this reason many ‘vanilla’ couples enjoy using spanking toys as a part of bedroom foreplay without feeling the need to venture into submissive/domination role play.

Spanking Toys & Tools.

Twitchy Palms

The palm of the hand is obviously the classic spanking tool and a great place to start when you are first learning how to control the intensity of your blows. By using your hand, you can use your own sensory feedback to monitor the strength of each blow. By monitoring your own strength and paying attention to your lovers reaction, you will soon be able to gauge the firmness and pace of spanking that elicits the most desirable sexual responses.

Floggers

If whips and paddles seem a little too intense but you are ready to move on from the humble hand, floggers are a great place to start. Soft and relatively unintimidating, floggers can be used to tease the flesh as it is draped across the skin. It can offer solid thwacks that sound impressive to the giver and arousing to the receiver, with the intensity of sensation completely up to you. When you are ready to push closer to your pleasure and pain barrier, it can also be used to deliver delightful stings that still aren’t quite as intense as some of the other spanking toys, such as paddles and whips.

Spanking Paddles

Spanking paddles are available in a variety of materials ranging from wood and metal through to suede and leather. Paddles offer a much more assertive slap than any hand can offer. Spanking paddles provide the best results when the area is first warmed up with a few hand slaps. If you are new to spankers, you might wish to purchase a padded spanking paddle made from a soft material until both partners are confident with the process.

Spanking paddles can be great for foreplay, arousing all the erogenous tissues to new heights and making them more sexually responsive touch and penetration. Inserting some Ben Wa Balls that jiggle and move with every sensual blow will enhance arousal even more.

Sex Whips & Crops

When selecting sex whips or riding crops for a lover, make sure it is one they have consented to or that you would choose for yourself. All whips and crops can offer a different type of sting depending what they are made from and how they are used. The pleasure-pain barrier is best achieved by slowly working up to firmer slaps and also by dragging the whip of flogger around the area in a teasing motion between strikes.

Some crops feature a split tip, which makes a lovely loud cracking sound for dramatic effect more than else. The firmness or flexibility of the handle can also have an impact on the amount of sting felt with each blow. It’s a good idea to practice using whips and crops on a fleshy part of your own body before using it on a lover. Practice your technique, learning what angles and what pressures feel the best.

Spanking Rules

If you are new to using spanking toys, it’s best to start with a fleshy part of the body such as the buttocks or thighs. Start softly until you both feel comfortable with the pressures being used. Begin by massaging the areas with some sensual massage oil. Once the area has been warmed up and the anticipation has built, give it a gentle slap. Follow every spank with a gentle caress of the area.

Due to the amount of oxytocin released during sexual arousal, a person’s pain tolerance can more than double during erotic play. For this reason, what may seem like a harsh spanking any other time might actually offer the perfect ‘sting’ when you are ‘in the zone’. It can also be incredibly intimate and emotionally connecting for both partners to know that you are at each other’s mercy.

As with any erotic play that involves a little BDSM twist, a ‘safe word’ should be agreed on before any spanking begins. If this word is said by either person all play must stop immediately. After BDSM play, the adrenalin and endorphins that were flowing around the body will start to reduce and tenderness might begin to creep in. After the spanking is over and its time to relax, gently massage aftercare cream to any areas that might become red or sore. This will help to reduce any post-spanking tenderness and will prime those cheeky cheeks ready for their next erotic spanking!